Monday, October 7, 2013

#MotivationalMonday—It’s All About Your Body Language

"Looking around this table I know this isn’t true at all," my good friend Sarah said, indicating we were nice, beautiful young ladies—she was right; there was no reason why each and everyone of us wasn’t good enough or incapable of being in a relationship.

"The problem is in our body language and how you hold yourself," she continued. "We are coming off as very defensive and unwelcoming. Guys are insecure too, and it’s really hard for them to ask girls out. They’re the ones who face rejection."

And as it turns out, 40% of how we communicate is purely done by our body language. When we slump and cross our arms, we not only make ourselves feel worthless, we are giving off a defensive signal. We aren’t appearing very welcoming with our heads down. (It’s no wonder we are all hopelessly single!)

However, there are some very simple ways to fix this, the first of which is to stand up straight. Standing up straight not only makes you appear more confident but makes you feel confident as well (it actually triggers the feeling of confidence in your brain, which I found rather interesting). Hold your head up high and smile more. Not only will you make others around you feel better, you will lift your own spirits as well. It may seem awkward at first (especially for me, being someone who doesn’t smile very often). Suck in your stomach/fill your ‘womb space’ as it helps to calm you down if you are nervous. (Breathing in through your nose and out through your mouth will also help to keep you calm and relieves anxiety.) But these are just a few things that can help you seem confident and become more confident. You know what they say, a confident woman is an attractive woman!

I hope this helps anyone that is struggling with this issue. Just know that you are in no way alone, and you don’t have to feel that way! Let me know if you have good tips in the comments below as always!


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